Posts by knows better

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How many Un-Believing Mates (UBMs) are on here?

by The Song Remains The Same in

this site really helps.. own up, are you a ubm and how do you cope?.

i am really struggling to put up with all the nonsense.

my wife has some mental health issues which are not solved at all.

knows better

ubm here.. its not easy, but i really just see the non witness side of my wife. i have found ,as many will tell you, you can't hate them out of the cult. good luck.. and happy holidays.. coping is a day to day struggle some days suck.. today is not so bad. i would say be yourself. its all you can do. love your wife and hope for the best..

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Lou Reed passed away

by glenster in

lewis allan "lou" reed (march 2, 1942 october 27, 2013).

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/lou_reed.

sweet jane '74.

knows better

heroin.. "i guess i just don't know" my favorite

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New Watchtower video on "real friends"

by cedars in

jw
friends

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5schopnecog.

it's difficult to imagine how this video could be more disingenuous and hypocritical.

cedars.

knows better

if your not a witness then your not their friends.. simple. i can vomit when they say "acquiantance"..

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JW Wife complications

by manda63 in

jw
friends

hi, my wife became a jw about 25 years ago and at the time while it all sounded crazy to me but i could see not wrong and have no problem with people having a religion , it started to become apparent that her choice of religion was almost cult like with all the controls in place.

we no longer have a social life together as she will only be with clan members not wordly people and i have stopped going round to her friends houses for get togethers becouse i am sick to death of being questioned and mocked about my beliefs,hearing other religion being called so harsh,wordly people being talked about as if scum and all the other haughty talk.

i am not allowed any material in the house that might be apostate,satanic?

knows better

i am also married to a life long witness, over 25 years. short story: 2 kids both out, dfed, she doesn't shun them. we are at a place where we don't speak about religion. i try and plant some seeds whenever i can, but her guard is always up. her watchtower side see me a evil as hell and responsible for her childern leaving the cult. but her "normal" side sees me as a loving husband and a caring father. its quite a battle to have going on in your head i imagine. its a very difficult life to lead, but i try and conentrate on the thing we have in commom instead of out differences. its hard and i know there are 2 sides to every story, but ... she NEVER, EVER brings up anything watchtowery with me. when she has it always ends in a argument.

we just move forward. and i hope for change

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AGM 5 OCTOBER 2013 (UNOFFICIAL RUMORS)

by WatchTower87 in

- 23 day to go .. annual meeting unofficial rumors.

- new bible.

- new nwt (revision).

knows better

the R&F will be so happified to have a seat at the table, that i won't matter what is offered. i say just a money grab for warwick. nothing more. no great revelations or doctrine changes. nothing to see here. why would you ? they stopped paying attention long ago.

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Would You Listen To A Prayer From A JW And Say Amen If They Said A Prayer In Your Presence?

by minimus in

jw
friends

my mom has had visits from various jws and they have asked her if they could say a prayer before they left.

i respectfully listened to the prayers while i was visiting and might silently say amen if i felt the prayer was appropriate for my mom.. i'm just curious, how would you handle this type of situation?.

knows better

no bowing, no eyes closed, and no amen.

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My son was murdered today

by truman in

i have been on this site daily, almost from its beginning, since i left the jws in 2001, but i have been more of a reader than a poster, as you can see from my post count.

i know few here know me, although i know many of you through reading your posts.

maybe it is not right to ask for support, when i generally stay quietly in the background of this forum, but i want only to speak a human misery of the deepest kind.

knows better

truman,

I'm sure words from strangers are of little comfort at a time like this.. but its all I have..

I am deeply sorry for your loss.

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I went home to visit my sister today...

by fallen_princess in

i haven't posted on here much recently but i thought out of everything that has happened since my husband and i together left the jw's, this was tame enough and not as drama-laden enough to share.... i have been married and out of the house for only about a year and a half, and since then, i have not been attending meetings after learning the truth about the "truth".

of course, i have caught flack for it but my family is on this new passive-aggressive kick; trying to guilt me about leaving without actually outwardly saying anything.. today, my sister (the new young regular pioneer) invited me (the apostate) over to my mother's house to hang out and maybe watch a movie.

i was responsible for picking the movie.

knows better

"I feel cowardly for not saying this is who I am in my abundance"

brillant. one of my biggest regrets. well said

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Are you a fader, Df'd, DA'd, or Still In?

by brotherdan in

i thought this would be an interesting poll that would show everyone the backgrounds of all of us when we left, if we have.. for myself, i am not df'd, but i am attempting a fade.

i still go to some meetings with the wife to help with kids, but that's it.

no commenting or field service.. what about everyone else?.